Magic
 

There are lots of lovely Dommes. There are sweet Dommes, mean Dommes, crazy Dommes, delightful Dommes. But once in a while a Domme comes along who really speaks to you - who draws something from deep inside you before you really know what's happening.

I've met such a Domme recently. She's smart, intelligent, observant, skillful - but more than that, it feels to me like this extra "thing" could happen here. The thing that makes all the difference, that makes it magical.

And the odd part is, I'm not sure that I want to go there again. Or perhaps should, or even can. The last time things ended quite badly. Idiotic to even think of making that kind of emotional investment...

Hi subtle - these words of yours have been running round my head on and off today

It strikes me as one of those things where it would be dead easy for someone to say (and I was thinking of saying it!!) that you should give it a go. After all something really good may come out seeing this lady - you only live once etc etc

But, you know, in your shoes I would be very wary if I had been burned before. I am still inclined to think it may be worth the risk.....

Good luck with whatever road you choose

If it is meant to happen subtle it will.

Life has a way of catching us unawares at times.

I wish you luck and a happy life no matter how this goes x

Thanks for the good wishes, and the good sense.

I guess some things can't be repeated anyway, and others don't need to be...

Or is it that you are trying to hold onto control a bit too much and are a little bit afraid to really let yourself go, because subconsciously this lady could really press your buttons as she reads you so well?

If it is that type of thing a bit, then I think that you just have to build up the trust by seeing her more and then in time you will be comfortable giving yourself completely.

So, I wouldn't walk away from this opportunity. You may never get another like it, just explore it further and see what happens.

Thanks, Mr Bromley.

I think I've simply lost faith in the wisdom or value of this kind of giving, and I've become much more wary of my own motivations, and those of others.

Or perhaps not motivations, exactly. It's probably more a question of personal circumstances and priorities, and the way that these (for both parties) don't necessarily fit very well with a deeper letting go on the part of the sub.*

I'm not saying that this can't or doesn't happen very successfully for other folk, but for one reason and another that hasn't been my experience.

At the moment the path towards peace & contentment looks for me like being the one called non-attachment.

* I've noticed, for instance, when I sub to someone over a period of time that reassurance & support can become pretty important to me - odd, as this hardly happens at all in other relationships.

Believe me subtle, you are not alone feeling in this way.

Maybe it is because other relationships do not open you up and leave you as vulnerable.

Only you know what is right for you, good luck.

I have been thinking about this thread for several days, actually thinking quite deeply. But there's no evidence of this, from me.

It's very difficult to reply to.

If I were to reply with everything I want to say I would never stop.

"Tomorrow let him love, who has never loved; he who has loved, let him love tomorrow."
(the Latin tag below)

Look forward to new experiences but don't fail to learn from mistakes from the past.

This, exactly

Thing is a good domme will understand this (as Mistress Adore proves in this post)

I know my domme does - she knew it before me!!