Hiya and welcome to UKM
I think you have had some good advice already. Try googling mistresses in your area and also you can look at listing sites - for example serious mistress -
http://www.seriousmistresses.com/
Have a read and see if they are offering what you are looking for and then get in contact. You should get a feeling for how you will get on with the lady when you chat to her. And, don't worry, PDs are used to newish people and should be understanding of your situation
Good luck
