Like others on this thread, I don't use them. I think it's very much to do with your style of play. The way my Domination has developed, they simply don't have a place within it.
If we're dealing with huge amounts of pain, my submissives are either conditioned to feel pleasure or are so completely into subspace, they wouldn't know what day of the week it is, never mind remember a word or phrase I'd given them. They're simply not able to decide when enough is enough.
I don't have a strong feeling on whether safewords are good or not. They work well for some people, for others of us not so much. Because I play so deeply mentally, I would say that for my style of play, using a safeword would be more dangerous than not.
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