How many

[geordiesouth]

It was something said by Mistress S and Lady A in the "Ask a mistress" thread.
They are pro dommes who are in a position to choose wether to see a client or not. It surprised me to see that they only see 3 or 4 a week. So obviously cash is not on the agenda here. Well maybe a little bit.

It got me thinking if there were mistresses out there who had targets to reach. Mistresses who had to see more clients than they would wish too.

I'm guessing this is of course a sensitive question. If your like me you would have the mindset that the mistress was actually only seeing you that year. Makes you special.

[Mistress Adore]

I am happy holding 6/7 a session's a month, though of course there are times when, i will have busy weeks as a few seem to be able to get away at the same time.

I did not see anyone last week, this week i have a session Thursday, Friday and a fantastic overnight and playday session booked on Sunday/Monday.

Your right GS, its not all about the money for many of us, we are just lucky enough for it to not have to be.

[Lady Anna]

This isn't an Oub question, it's definitely DOI.

It's a good question.

In my opinion if a Mistress needs to see more clients than she wants to she's either in the wrong job or she needs to increase her tribute.

If she needs to increase her tribute she has to ask herself if she's spending beyond her means and potential.

Seeing more clients than you want to is a terrible decision to have to make, both personally and professionally.

Definitely a DoI topic and a damn good question too



I do sometimes wonder how hard it is for those PDs, who are more reliant on the tributes to keep them going, to balance the desire to session as they wish to with the number of clients they need to see to get the right income

I hope that makes sense - posting in a bit of a rush this morning

[Lady Anna]

Originally Posted by Lisal

Definitely a DoI topic and a damn good question too



I do sometimes wonder how hard it is for those PDs, who are more reliant on the tributes to keep them going, to balance the desire to session as they wish to with the number of clients they need to see to get the right income

I hope that makes sense - posting in a bit of a rush this morning

I don't know how true this is, it could just be conjecture, but early on I was told about a few Mistresses who once they started earning some decent money they rushed out to order a big flash car, bought designer gear or developed a substance habit, all of which needed financing. They fell into a circle of earn and need that meant they had to earn x amount in order to pay off purchases, some of which were needed to keep earning.

Whether it is true or not is irrelevant because I've always remembered it, learned from it, and never bought more than I can comfortably afford. PDing can be pressurising enough without making it worse by overreaching yourself.

I've only ever counted the cash in my hand. Never what's in the diary and absolutely never what I may think I'll earn next year, or even next month actually.

[Mistress Adore]

Originally Posted by Lady Anna

I've only ever counted the cash in my hand. Never what's in the diary and absolutely never what I may think I'll earn next year, or even next month actually.

This is so true.

How often does it look as though we have a lot (for us) booked in, when it happens, i just know most are going to fall through, for one reason or another and they usually do.
The the opposite can happen, not much booked and a few decide they need to see you as they have been able to get away.

Swings and roundabouts, the trick is to buy what you can afford, or save up until you do, and never count your chickens ....

Yes indeed ladies but there can be times where cash flow becomes an issue - especially if it is the sole income (I do realise PDs have partners and some work part time etc)

I was thinking (as I reckon GS was) that there may have to be a compromise at some stage - quantity v quality if you see what I mean

Now I must go - after I put the clock right

[Lady Anna]

Originally Posted by Lisal

Yes indeed ladies but there can be times where cash flow becomes an issue - especially if it is the sole income (I do realise PDs have partners and some work part time etc)

I was thinking (as I reckon GS was) that there may have to be a compromise at some stage - quantity v quality if you see what I mean

Now I must go - after I put the clock right

I haven't had this issue myself, thankfully. I've always kept something in reserve just in case, and things have always picked up in time.

But this is why so many Mistresses film. Selling clips and subscriptions to member sites can create another income that helps plugs those gaps.

[Anitafan]

Originally Posted by Lisal

Yes indeed ladies but there can be times where cash flow becomes an issue - especially if it is the sole income (I do realise PDs have partners and some work part time etc)

I was thinking (as I reckon GS was) that there may have to be a compromise at some stage - quantity v quality if you see what I mean

Now I must go - after I put the clock right

I don't think that this dilemma applies just to PD. Anybody in a self employed "consulting" job who enjoys their work has the same issues. I am self employed, and work part time, as I am lucky enough to be able to get by on a relatively modest income. I enjoy my work. Some times, I would like a bit more. Occasionally, I have more than I want. It is hard to turn away clients; they may not be there when you want them. However, usually the balance is OK

[Mistress Susannah]

Originally Posted by Anitafan

I don't think that this dilemma applies just to PD. Anybody in a self employed "consulting" job who enjoys their work has the same issues. I am self employed, and work part time, as I am lucky enough to be able to get by on a relatively modest income. I enjoy my work. Some times, I would like a bit more. Occasionally, I have more than I want. It is hard to turn away clients; they may not be there when you want them. However, usually the balance is OK

I completely get that. The trouble (or of course joy) with Pro Domming is that, from my experience, if you accept someone who isn't quite on the same page as you it can be quite a debilitating experience. Because of the personal nature of the interaction and the amount of yourself you put into things it can be a major confidence knock and sometimes upsetting if you're playing with someone who is wrong for you.

I made the mistake, a few years ago now, of taking on someone who I had a few reservations about.... because I needed the money at that moment..... I thought, "hey, what's the worst that could happen." The session wasn't a complete disaster but it was depressing as we didn't click and this left an effect on me. In hindsight, I didn't need the money and would have been absolutely fine without. I shouldn't have done it. Boy did I learn my lesson! But I guess one like that, in ten years of sessioning, I can probably give myself a break!

If I had sessions like that on a regular basis, I would really lose my mojo and I'd probably lose more money than I'd make because I'd have to take time out to regain my strength.

I'm sure it's the same in other self employed work .... but the intense and personal nature of pro domming.... you have to be really careful about balancing the work/enjoyment.