“Lifestyle “ vs PD

[geordiesouth]

I was going to start a new thread. But believe this could just tag onto Lisals thread.


It’s actually been quite some time since I’ve sessioned with a pro dom.

To be quite honest I never really visited all that many, even in my heyday. Or UKM’s for that matter.
But visit some I did and formed friendships with one or two.
I always liked the camaraderie of it all.

But session I still did albeit outside of the pro dom blanket.
I’ve never been much of a one for the escort scene or seeing tarts with whips (as they are commonly known)
I’m not saying I haven’t……….. just seeing someone for sex is………… what’s the word.
Boring is good enough.

Of course as those who know me well will testify. Looking as I do a tad like George Clooney and Brad (rolled into one) Free sex has always been freely available.

But kink I do love. But again it’s never going to be anything remotely like some of the stuff, folk on here have gotten up too.
But it’s my idea of BDSM

I booked a massage with a very nice young woman. Yes before you ask. It was of the sensual variety and I left happy enough. A while later I booked again and to cut a long story short. She and I ended up chatting about kinky stuff.
Now this very nice young woman professed to me she is not involved in anything fetish or kink related. But that one or two of her clients do ask her to wear items of clothing during the massage treatment. One chap brings her tights to wear and another simply sits and talks to her for the whole booking apart from the happy ending before he leaves.
All harmless stuff.
So my mention of tie and tease, tease and denial, edging etc, was met with the cutest of smiles.

It turns out, having me in restraints and tormenting the hell out of me comes extremely natural to her.
Like I said. I’ve known her for a while now and the bookings have become even more kink orientated.
Toys for her enjoyment.
A mouth (ball) gag. (For me, it stops me getting to the part of her I love so much)
A chastity cage.
My love of hold up stockings is something she too enjoys and she has bought a nice pair of high heels to go with them.

She is by no means a dom and never will be. But we both laugh at how far she has come so to speak and she admitted it is a turn on to tease and frustrate especially.
But not enough to advertise her new found skills. Apparently one kinky Geordie is enough for her to contend with. Makes me feel kind of special.

So you see. Playing our kinky games does not necessarily mean the need to have a dungeon or a drago……… my apologies. A mistress.

Plus once again we see how different we all are with regard to how we play or even consider playing.

So lifestyle is not for me…….. after all that 😂

[southsub]

I have had very good relationships with Pro Dommes between sessions which have been fine so long as you respect each others real lives.

[geordiesouth]

World would be a happier place if we could all respect each other more.

[chris4slavery]

Lifestyle vs PD is always a difficult one.
I like the idea of an hr or two of perversion then being free from it.
I also like the idea of "real" domination, but find it a bit impractical.

Some PD's just do it for the money and have no real interest in domination. It DOES show. And then others you think... "Hmm She doesn't exactly live for it".

Lifestylers kinks seem to be too specific. So it might be hard to match them to my own.

Then there is the confused aspect to it all, even the disturbing aspect.
For instance, a lifestyle Dominant who has young children and considers it all to be "the lifestyle".

I mean ethically should a Domme even practice aspects of the lifestyle where young children can see/hear what's going on? I wonder what people here think?