UKM - How long to stay after sesson? - UK

mikeyports · 22-10-2012, 22:57

I have had a few sessions with diffrent Mistresses recentley and I think a good end to a session should be a chat over a cuppa.

My last Mistress use to do this and the few I have sceen since do.

But do not want to over stay my welcome and said to one Mistress after a good chat(20mins) must be going and I think she was a bit shocked I wanted to go.

what is the right thing to do?

22-10-2012, 23:19

A subject which seems alien to me I have to say. How long should you stay after a session? The only logical answer I can give is no longer than your Mistress is willing to furnish you with, staying after a session isn't to be expected.

After I session I permit about ten minutes or so (if I feel it's required) to let them catch their breath and for me to provide a little post session aftercare. Asking if there are any aches or pains I need to be made aware of, if they are light headed or at all feeling something I need to know. After that I see them out.

Sitting around drinking tea just wouldn't work for me. Over familiarity makes me loose interest and if they do become over familiar I cut them and won't see them again. Obviously I take a certain level of interest in my subs but tea? It's not my cuppa!

Each to her own.

mikeyports · 22-10-2012, 23:37

Ana I dont expect it but agree a sub does need 10 mins + aftercare

But that is the way A lot of Mistresses that do end the session with a cappa

As you say to each ther own.

posh-sub · 23-10-2012, 00:08

In my experience both parties generally enjoy a little post-session chat.

Domme's don't like to be treated like a working girl with a quick "thanks, love - I'll be off now!" and equally clients really do need a bit of time to get themselves together and come down to earth.

But how long? Well - obviously - it will be different with each occasion. But 10 - 15 minutes seems about right. In general, I think one can 'sense' when the conversation is becoming a bit sparse and the top-up of tea/coffee is not as forthcoming, or when the post-session tidying is getting a bit 'obvious'.

In short, Mikey, trust your instincts, I am sure it will be obvious when it happens.

Peace & Love
poshie

23-10-2012, 04:24

What poshie said mikey - trust your own instincts

I stay quite a while but that's because we know each other well and we are gossiping etc. It would be different with someone new - or much newer to me

subtle · 23-10-2012, 06:31

I remember once being told I couldn't leave for quite some time because I was too spaced out.

Either that or she just couldn't bear to see me go.

22-10-2012, 22:57	#1
mikeyports Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: portsmouth Posts: 944 Reputation: 59	How long to stay after sesson? I have had a few sessions with diffrent Mistresses recentley and I think a good end to a session should be a chat over a cuppa. My last Mistress use to do this and the few I have sceen since do. But do not want to over stay my welcome and said to one Mistress after a good chat(20mins) must be going and I think she was a bit shocked I wanted to go. what is the right thing to do? __________________ don't judge people i accept them There is not a person that breathes that does not have peculiaritys as long as it does not hurt anyone its OK by me.(cant stop the music) [live life and have a beautiful ending https://twitter.com/Elainasslut

22-10-2012, 23:37	#3
mikeyports Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: portsmouth Posts: 944 Reputation: 59	Ana I dont expect it but agree a sub does need 10 mins + aftercare But that is the way A lot of Mistresses that do end the session with a cappa As you say to each ther own. __________________ don't judge people i accept them There is not a person that breathes that does not have peculiaritys as long as it does not hurt anyone its OK by me.(cant stop the music) [live life and have a beautiful ending https://twitter.com/Elainasslut

23-10-2012, 04:24	#5
Lisal Guest Posts: n/a	What poshie said mikey - trust your own instincts I stay quite a while but that's because we know each other well and we are gossiping etc. It would be different with someone new - or much newer to me Last edited by Lisal; 23-10-2012 at 11:54.

22-10-2012, 23:19	#2
Ana Guest Posts: n/a	A subject which seems alien to me I have to say. How long should you stay after a session? The only logical answer I can give is no longer than your Mistress is willing to furnish you with, staying after a session isn't to be expected. After I session I permit about ten minutes or so (if I feel it's required) to let them catch their breath and for me to provide a little post session aftercare. Asking if there are any aches or pains I need to be made aware of, if they are light headed or at all feeling something I need to know. After that I see them out. Sitting around drinking tea just wouldn't work for me. Over familiarity makes me loose interest and if they do become over familiar I cut them and won't see them again. Obviously I take a certain level of interest in my subs but tea? It's not my cuppa! Each to her own.

23-10-2012, 00:08	#4
posh-sub Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Brighton Posts: 979 Reputation: 108	In my experience both parties generally enjoy a little post-session chat. Domme's don't like to be treated like a working girl with a quick "thanks, love - I'll be off now!" and equally clients really do need a bit of time to get themselves together and come down to earth. But how long? Well - obviously - it will be different with each occasion. But 10 - 15 minutes seems about right. In general, I think one can 'sense' when the conversation is becoming a bit sparse and the top-up of tea/coffee is not as forthcoming, or when the post-session tidying is getting a bit 'obvious'. In short, Mikey, trust your instincts, I am sure it will be obvious when it happens. Peace & Love poshie

23-10-2012, 06:31	#6
subtle Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 1,037 Reputation: 190	I remember once being told I couldn't leave for quite some time because I was too spaced out. Either that or she just couldn't bear to see me go.