UKM - Anticipation - UK

Lisal · 18-04-2024, 18:25

Just thinking about this on the train home from sessioning tonight

Can you over anticipate your sessions. Can they build up so much in your mind that the reality is a bit of a letdown?

Hasten to say that today’s wasn’t. Nice bit of swapping by herself from what she intended to do when she caught my mood early on

But I’ve certainly had that sort of session in the past. Not really the domme’s fault - over expectation can play its part too. I know once I was very psyched up about seeing a “name” knowing her reputation but we didn’t gel

She didn’t want to see me again but did agree to give it another go. She was right, though - we were a wrong batch

ex nihilo · 18-04-2024, 21:42

My feelings as I’m approaching a session are best described in the opening words of Pink Floyd’s ‘Cymbeline’ from the film 'More'.

“The path you tread is narrow
And the drop is shear and very high
The ravens all are watching
From a vantage point nearby
Apprehension creeping
Like a tube-train up your spine
Will the tightrope reach the end
Will the final couplet rhyme”

Yep, that’s my frame of mind. ‘Apprehension creeping, like a tube-train up my spine’. Am I up for the challenge ? There are always new boundaries and the expectation of pushing through new pain barriers, that awaits…

reefknot · 19-04-2024, 05:24

The reverse can also be the case.

You book a session butt on the day you are just not in the right frame of mind; butt this can change once you walk through the door. The smile of the Mistress face, the instruction to get ready and then the play starts ...............

And you mind soon gets into the right frame

chris4slavery · 21-04-2024, 16:37

My anticipation can vary.
It might be massive horniness. Or heart pounding "I can't wait".
It's also "wow I am so stupid, why am I terrifying myself and choosing to do this ordeal, why am I so stupid".

Afterwards, I might look at the anticipation it generated and how I feel afterwards. It could be an emotional exhaustion. It could be "wow that got me horny". It could be "what a pathetic pervert I am". It could be "hmmm yeah I deserved that hiding and I deserved every ounce of the fear and humiliation".

Sometimes it might cause me to feel sexually submissive for a week or two.
Or afterwards it might reawaken my sense of alpha.

Big topic and I struggle to make a lot of sense of it. After all, its meant to be something that should feel "shameful" or "weird" or "perverse". In fact that's what makes it "fun". hehe

18-04-2024, 18:25	#1
Lisal Member Join Date: Sep 2014 Posts: 11,297 Reputation: 973	Anticipation Just thinking about this on the train home from sessioning tonight Can you over anticipate your sessions. Can they build up so much in your mind that the reality is a bit of a letdown? Hasten to say that today’s wasn’t. Nice bit of swapping by herself from what she intended to do when she caught my mood early on But I’ve certainly had that sort of session in the past. Not really the domme’s fault - over expectation can play its part too. I know once I was very psyched up about seeing a “name” knowing her reputation but we didn’t gel She didn’t want to see me again but did agree to give it another go. She was right, though - we were a wrong batch __________________ Proud to be a woke

18-04-2024, 21:42	#2
ex nihilo Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 6,499 Reputation: 31	Train of thought... My feelings as I’m approaching a session are best described in the opening words of Pink Floyd’s ‘Cymbeline’ from the film 'More'. “The path you tread is narrow And the drop is shear and very high The ravens all are watching From a vantage point nearby Apprehension creeping Like a tube-train up your spine Will the tightrope reach the end Will the final couplet rhyme” Yep, that’s my frame of mind. ‘Apprehension creeping, like a tube-train up my spine’. Am I up for the challenge ? There are always new boundaries and the expectation of pushing through new pain barriers, that awaits… __________________ “We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful what we pretend to be.”

19-04-2024, 05:24	#3
reefknot Member Join Date: Feb 2022 Posts: 395 Reputation: -16	The reverse can also be the case. You book a session butt on the day you are just not in the right frame of mind; butt this can change once you walk through the door. The smile of the Mistress face, the instruction to get ready and then the play starts ............... And you mind soon gets into the right frame __________________ Nipple clamps are an essential accessory - acording to my Mistress To be anally retentive is the ability to hold a butt plug in

21-04-2024, 16:37	#4
chris4slavery Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: England Posts: 351 Reputation: 81	My anticipation can vary. It might be massive horniness. Or heart pounding "I can't wait". It's also "wow I am so stupid, why am I terrifying myself and choosing to do this ordeal, why am I so stupid". Afterwards, I might look at the anticipation it generated and how I feel afterwards. It could be an emotional exhaustion. It could be "wow that got me horny". It could be "what a pathetic pervert I am". It could be "hmmm yeah I deserved that hiding and I deserved every ounce of the fear and humiliation". Sometimes it might cause me to feel sexually submissive for a week or two. Or afterwards it might reawaken my sense of alpha. Big topic and I struggle to make a lot of sense of it. After all, its meant to be something that should feel "shameful" or "weird" or "perverse". In fact that's what makes it "fun". hehe __________________ Lets start protecting children and the vulnerable from perverts. Instead of letting perverts groom and deceive them. Lets start respecting Christians instead of promoting the deceptions of the Devil. Peace and love, not lies and trickery.