The sexual side of it all

[ex nihilo]

Originally Posted by Slutty Rimmer

P.S. If you really want Mistresses to partake then maybe try sticking to the ‘discussion of interest’ rather than wanging on about Mistresses not posting. Probably more likely to partake if there is less discontent and nastiness on the forum…so not much chance of that happening then !

Kind Regards,
Rimmer.

Not much logic in that. Sticking to your version of DoI, is more likely to have them staying further away...

[Slutty Rimmer]

Originally Posted by ex nihilo

Not much logic in that. Sticking to your version of DoI, is more likely to have them staying further away...

This is a public forum and the Mods do a fine job under the circumstances.

Now, back on topic. Tell us how you know what the ‘vast majority’ of PD’s do and don’t partake in with clients. Or was your whinge just a distraction to avoid admitting you don’t know ?

Yeah, thought so.

Kind Regards,
Rimmer.

[reefknot]

Originally Posted by ex nihilo

Just imagine how interesting this thread might have been, if the wide array of wonderful PD's who frequented this parish a decade ago, could give us their opinions.

Male only submissive or plain old wanky man is not moving the conversation on...

They would not have and did not openly discussed it in this forum, even if a happy end was permitted or not; although some did talk about happy endings being allowed, if the sub deserved it.
It was and still is what happens behind the closed door of a dungeon, play space etc stays behind closed doors

Originally Posted by Bjorn Brimble

Great point. The problem with DoI in a nutshell …

Not at all, for the reasons I gave above

[Lisal]

Originally Posted by Bjorn Brimble

We have to be mindful of the golden rule here Lisal. Professional Domination does not = prostitution.

Put simply if a lady states on her site in capital letters that she does not offer sexual services, then there’s a good chance she means it.

She may well go ballistic if someone then asks her to her face if she provides sexual services.

And she has every right to IMO

Some of us will remember certain rumours years ago surrounding Mistress XXxXxXX.

Something about her offering fellatio to her subs as an extra once you’ve visited three times.

Turned out it was a load of codswallop.

Not fair on her and not fair on the other Mistresses at the xXxxXXx dungeon.

Even if these extra curricular activities do go on with select subs. That’s a matter between two consenting adults and quite frankly none of our business AFAIC.

Well yes

Which is what I said

If it states clearly not offered then don't ask

If it's not - and it's something that you would wish to have as part of a session - ask - but ask politely

[Lisal]

Originally Posted by ex nihilo

You need to be careful. PD's appreciate potential subs reading their websites carefully, highlighting their services and specialities. It must be really annoying to get a plethora of questions at the going in stage, as to activities that are not on offer. A bit disrespectful, if the motivation is to get tie and tease or hand relief. Maybe find an escort.

Individual professional arrangements may evolve over time.

A typical PD website will want to differentiate potential submissive clients between those who would be on a genuine journey with a PD and those who would be better off with an escort.

You establish a start point in acceptance with the PD’s published guidelines and if it becomes long term and if the communication and relationship is good, things will evolve along the way. But that is a two way street, with the PD still having the whip hand. We don't want topping from the bottom sneaking in...

Of course you have to be careful. Which, again, is why I said if you are asking - ask politely

A website is a guide. It's unlikely to cover everything but I agree that a domme will be using it to aim for the type of client that she wants. Same type of interests/person etc etc

And it's not going to be a plethora of questions (well not from me anyway ). It would just be to ask if a non listed service was available - if no - end of discussion. I'd only ask if it was something important to me in respect of session content

Not sure how asking if a service is possible is topping from the bottom - but that's a big subject on it's own

Maybe an idea for another thread

[Slutty Rimmer]

Originally Posted by reefknot

They would not have and did not openly discussed it in this forum, even if a happy end was permitted or not; although some did talk about happy endings being allowed, if the sub deserved it.
It was and still is what happens behind the closed door of a dungeon, play space etc stays behind closed doors

Not at all, for the reasons I gave above

Fair point here. Not something which had occurred to me.

The ladies might not want to openly discuss personal and intimate services which they offer ‘below the counter’ so this thread is ideal for the current moment of just the clients contributing.

Makes perfect sense when you put it like that.

Kind Regards,
Rimmer.

[geordiesouth]

I have orally pleasured a number of Pro Doms and have had sex with…….. let’s just leave it there shall we.

Ahhh the good old days

Gone but not forgotten.

[Slutty Rimmer]

Originally Posted by geordiesouth

I have orally pleasured a number of Pro Doms and have had sex with…….. let’s just leave it there shall we.

Ahhh the good old days

Gone but not forgotten.

Nothing really changes Geordie in the timeless dance of men and women at play.

Kind Regards,
Rimmer.

[geordiesouth]

Originally Posted by Slutty Rimmer

Nothing really changes Geordie in the timeless dance of men and women at play.

Kind Regards,
Rimmer.

Just a case of asking nicely really.

Err……….sorry. I meant beg profusely 😂

[Slutty Rimmer]

Originally Posted by geordiesouth

Just a case of asking nicely really.

Err……….sorry. I meant beg profusely 😂

All part of the fun Geordie, all part of the fun.

Kind Regards,
Rimmer.